In a Room Full of People
Autism Fact: "People with autism often find understanding and communicating with others particularly difficult, which can leave them feeling isolated."
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In a Room Full of People
You know the times you're in a room full of people? Some you know. Some you may not. But there is lots and lots of noise, not to mention different points of focus and interest. For some the chaos is fun and exciting. Others, not so much. For someone with Aspergers Syndrome, or another level of autism, it can be overwhelming, stressful, and hard to understand what's going on. Finding the right moment to enter the conversation, conversing about what everyone else finds fascinating but you not so much, cracking a joke you find hilarious when everyone just stares back at you, or being frustrated because you're in a room full of people and don't actually want to be there. Interacting with people can be hard, but sometimes it has to be done and there are times it results in hurt feelings and misunderstandings on both sides.
You can find yourself eagerly discussing your favorite topic—like dinosaurs, World War II, horses, squirrels—and not realize the conversation has moved on without you. It creates an awkward moment when you realize no one wants to be having the conversation you are. At the same time, for a younger child, it creates tension that can have less than stellar outcomes because they don't know how else to process what's happening. The simplest thing—a bump, a misspoken word, or having someone completely ignore you—can be taken as an insult or slight leading to a meltdown which in turn has its own consequences.
Meltdowns can bring a lot of attention where more can create problems. Some people will try to help, others will be quite to judge and start talking about the inconvenience it is to have the person there, and others will just ignore the situation. More attention is often worse for a meltdown. The pressure to pull oneself together, to have everyone watching them when it's easier to have no one around, brings the stress of the social interaction to a whole new level. It also makes it harder to want to interact with people again, because you know you're doing it wrong somehow. You feel the judgement of others—depending on the function level of the autistic person—but if there is awareness, there is a sense of not belonging, of never being able to figure it out. Sometimes, the best gift people could give is understanding. It doesn't mean we want a hug or a protective circle, but a chance to pull ourselves together, to not have people hovering or judging us.
Because the truth is, not just people with autism or aspergers have meltdowns, regular people have them too. Everyone can have a bad day, and in the wrong situation, have a bad moment. To have other people not be so quick to judgement, to give space or encouragement as needed, is a truly wonderful gift. To not knock us when we're trying to work with the room full of people. Or to wait until we can get past our "Stop". Everyone, parent, child, the adult who doesn't quite fit, we'd all appreciate a little more understanding and less judgement. Because you never know how someone's day has gone and we could all use a little compassion.
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4/5/2014 11:42:31 pm
*hugs* Well said, Freddy - we're all in such a rush these days, it's so easy to be impatient with people. This is so important to remember - that not everyone reacts to social situations in the same way.
4/5/2014 11:49:40 pm
Hugs... thank you so much for taking part hun... :) XXXXXXXX
4/6/2014 12:00:30 am
thanks for the great post. my dad was diagnosed with aspbergers when he was 50 and a lot of what you said about being socially akward and having melt downs all thru his life. but some how he managed to have as normal a life as possible which is a miracle
4/6/2014 12:04:58 am
Nicely said! Thank you for the giveaway also!
Shirley Ann Speakman
4/6/2014 02:10:50 am
I enjoyed the post it's was very interesting to find out the problems people have if they have Autism. It's a great idea to have a Blog Hop to highlight Autism.
4/6/2014 02:24:48 am
Nicely put. A nice clear explanation. Thanks for the giveaway opportunity too.
4/6/2014 05:20:24 am
That's the best explanation of Asperger's I've heard, very useful!
4/6/2014 09:09:50 am
Thank you for giving readers who never dealt with Aspergers Syndrome or another branch of autism a idea of what it is like to have this disorder. I've truly learned a lot during the tour and it's awesome that your helping to spread awareness.
4/6/2014 07:13:14 pm
It ought to be everyone's mantra - we could all use a little compassion!! Very interesting post.
4/9/2014 03:14:09 pm
4/14/2014 03:30:50 am
This was so much help and information!!! It just proves that we never really know how things are interpreted by other people.
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